I love family even more than I love drumming, and fortunately for me I am naturally more gifted at being a father and husband than I am at being a musician. Not to say that it has always been easy, but I think it mostly comes down to the environment I was raised in. My parents exampled unconditional love, support and sacrifice, so these things come naturally to me. Had my parents been great drummers or musicians…well, those endeavors would have come easier to me, and I would likely have a different view of what it means to be successful.
I didn’t even realize that being a family man was such an integral part of my idea of success until I started one. When in high school and college, my younger more impressionable self was more influenced by those around me and what their ideas of success were, so success looked like record deals, touring, endorsements, etc. In hindsight, too much “success” early on would have gotten in the way of achieving the most important piece of my success puzzle: having an amazing wife and kids that love, respect, and appreciate me unconditionally – and that feeling is mutual.
Getting married and/or having children isn’t for everyone, and it seems doing so successfully is often incompatible with being a professional musician. It can be difficult at times to choose between spending time with family, or practicing so that you can better support your family with career success. Thank you Tina, Katelyn, Jason and Brandon for your love, support and understanding when I have errored on the side of practicing too much!!
– Dad